I think it’s interesting how we carry over many attitudes, habits, and beliefs from our childhood all through adolescence to being an adult without even being conscious of it. We just happen to be accustomed to a particular habit and it stays with us for so long and we are not exactly aware of it. I recently realized something that gave a lot of meaning to a long time adult habit and behavior of mine. My love for jewelry and how it happens to always comfort me when I’m in some unpleasant situation.
Here’s How It Started
I had once told somebody an anecdote about how when I was a child and playing with pieces of jewelry or even the mere promise of being allowed to play with it used to calm me. He happened to notice that I still do that, he put two and two together and here I am, realizing that my love for jewelry didn’t just start as an adult, I had carried it with me all the way from when I was a child.
Thinking about it now, I’d say the love started when the only way my mother could get me to not cry and behave anytime I had to make the terrifying visit to see a doctor or a dentist as a little girl was to promise me that as soon as we got home, she would let me play with jewelry. It went beyond that as it always made me feel better even when I was just uncomfortable or sick.
Decades later, I’m an adult and the narrative is still the same. Most times when I’m having some sort of difficult time or when I’m either tired, overwhelmed or uncomfortable or maybe just a little sad, I sit down with my jewelry and somehow, the comfort comes.
It’s Not About Showing Them Off
Interestingly, though I have many gorgeous pieces of jewelry, I don’t show them off. It’s more for me to look at and enjoy, for me and not for anyone. Most people actually don’t even know what it is I have because I don’t show it off. I never do because though I love having my gorgeous pieces and my diamonds, I’m more or less a minimalist kind of person as I do have certain pieces that I wear almost all the time.
Well, here I am, writing about how jewelry brings such a comforting feeling to me. It is what serves to bring me back to my mother who was my comfort. When I sit down and play with my jewelry, it’s like going back home and being that little girl once again.
I think my love for jewelry and the way it comforts me is my inner child always coming out to play seeing as that means it’s that part of me that still acts like a child due to some psychological childlike configurations that subconsciously made it to my adult life. I appreciate it and I think it makes a lot of sense that therapists and psychologists recommend that adults are constantly in touch with their inner child.
Your inner child can serve to heal you, encourage you or as in my case, comfort you. Whichever it is, don’t hold back your inner child especially if it didn’t come as naturally as mine did. Find it, embrace it and let it come out to play!